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I remember coming home one weekend during my first year of college. Of course, the family went to church that Sunday. Upon entering the sanctuary I was greeted by an older cousin -- I am at least her third cousin removed, I think. She was born and raised downsouth. I don't think she's ever lived anywhere else and I wouldn't be surprised if she's never visited anywhere outside of the county lines. But still, I love her.
After saying "hey" followed by the usual "how ya doing?" banter, she asked me if I found a boyfriend. Now that I think about it, she asked me this more than once as I would visit the folks while I was an undergrad. She never asked me about school, which was supposed to have been the whole reason I was out of town in the first place. And sure, I had boyfriends and eventually met my daughter's dad as I sat on a bus stop sucking on a lollipop. (This is our running joke, but I did meet him at a city bus station.) But even I knew between the Mad Dog 20/20 and er um...boyfriends with an S, I knew I was not leaving that campus without a degree. There is no peen good enough to cost me an education. Girls, read that sentence three times in the mirror. You're welcome.
But southern Black women will have you believe that a man is the end all-be all, ala 1960s, when African-American women were expected to stay home and were shunned if they chose a career (usually in the nursing and teaching fields) over a hubby.
Kang is king, and this is why Fantasia said what she said:
Most women are trying to be a leader, that’s why you can’t find a man. You can’t be the king in the house. Fall back and be the queen and let your man lead the way. (source - Bossip)
Bonus points if you too just read that in her voice.
The couple went on Instagram to explain...there is nothing to explain, sis! She stated that (most) women need to fall back when it comes to relationships. She was clearly speaking to (most) hetero women, who are single and are trying to find a man. There is an audience for all of that, too, based on the number of "amen gurl" replies found on social media. So I honestly have no problem with her speaking her mind (her mind...not one word, y'all!).
No worries here. In fact, it's laughable. The day that anyone would seek dating and marital advice from the scream queen (you know exactly what I mean) is the day the world must stop turning. Like screeching-
And never mind that, since he reportedly earns much MUCH less than the hollering hummingbird, he now has access to everything if there is no prenup. And never mind, going back to his criminal resume, he is an abuser. Unless he went to therapy (ha!) he will most likely beat a woman again. Tasia, you're in danger, girl.
Let's just remind ourselves of Tina Turner, Melba Moore, Mary J. Blige and a host of other black SANGers who needed a man so much...and finally, be done with Facebook-fighting over what the outrageous orator had to say on somebody's morning show. And don't be surprised when he cheats, beats and drains her accounts within five-to-ten years. Five-to-ten. Sounds like something off dude's criminal background, yes?
We all already know, some don't subscribe to submission (in that way...hee hee). Enough already.
Just like a headline found on the New York Times' front page today -- Poor Schools Can't Compete With Suburban Rivals. Should They? (we know this already and there is no need in trying to be like 'em) -- folks be rehashing shyt that the rest of us have known for years. Find something else to be fake-mad about this week.
And pray that Fantasia gets out while the getting is good, and cheaper.
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